Everyone stop on by and congratulate Steph on the placement of an 11 week old boy!!! She is a former SW adopting through Foster Care. She's pretty dang cool. Her sister in law is adopting from China (I think I have that right) "Different Dirt" - she is waiting for a travel date to bring her little Thor home.
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I am sitting here just kind of cautious but calm (thank goodness for DH).
Got a call from the other SW yesterday re: the two little ones. She had a bit more info. We would be the 6th placement. Ummm..... is that excessive? No wonder the little girl may have some attachment issues.
Again, DH and I talk over the info. Again we decide we will say that for the best interests of all involved we think that the previous "adoptive placement" now called "caretakers" keep the kids until our SW gets back and she can assess these kids (maybe not for the current "caretakers"). ALSO--- Where the heck is more info? Don't you guys think that we should know exactly how EXTENSIVE her behaviors are? Shouldn't we be prepared? The SW went so far as to ask me if there was a problem this weekend could she bring them over to our house so there would be one less move for them. That brought me up short. Wait! Hold on there!
DH and I are committed that once the children enter our home that they are "ours" forever, no matter what. We are willing to go to therapy etc but.... I CANNOT tear my family apart (which severe attachment disorders can do). I know she is only 3 but... shouldn't that even caution me MORE so with 6 yes, 6 placements? How many times were they reunited with their family before this?
Found out that the county coordinator (I'm guessing at her title) is on vacation until Tuesday. If they can wait for her to make the decision on whether to consider us (wait a minute?), why can't they wait for our SW to come back less than a week later?
The SW e-mailed the questions I posted previously to the current "caretaker" and she is supposed to be getting that back to us. I asked the SW to forward them to me. I will forward them to MY SW. Maybe she will take over the campgrounds office again. I have not called her and will not until I get more info and dig a little deeper.
I have to remember not to be scared about never getting another "referral" (is what I call it), I am fighting for my family's well being and the children's (who need to be placed ) also.
I have to keep saying to myself "At what price?"
I am wondering and mentioned this to Denise-
Is the SW trying to "save face" with this county by trying to find a family VERY fast on her own as it is her family backing out?
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It's hard. I know this much. When you have a gut feeling that it's not the right placement, it's OK to say no. My agency kept stressing to me that saying yes to a placement I was unsure about would be a disservice to the child.
On the other hand, you can only trust the information you get to a certain extent. With Slugger, some things are not nearly as bad as I had been warned. His paperwork is far scarier than the reality. But there are issues that were minimized that I feel are kind of a big deal. (No stranger danger what-so-ever, for example.) Paperwork and SWs can't fully predict how a child will behave/react in your home.
Wow! I'd be very cautious. I just don't understand what the rush is all about. And sadly, it makes me very weary about the little girl's issues. Is the things that she's doing so bad that the "caretakers" need her out asap?
I'm sorry, but it just doesn't sound like the kids SW has their best interest in mind... nor yours!!
PS!! Check it out... I'm commenting! I swear my computer is tempermental!
I wish MY SW was here! Funny how things like this always happen when someone is on vacation. I'm not freaking about this anymore. If it happens it will, but in the right way.
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