I signed up for the Secret Pal Exchange for my DTC month when my LID was all shiny and new. I was excited, hopeful and "glowing". I felt the same way I did when I found out I was pregnant; happy and expectant. I wanted to share in the joy I felt, I wanted to spread my joy. I do that by giving gifts. By picking out very special gifts that will make the recipient joyful, expectant and appreciated.
Well, this exchange has shown me that there are those out there with serious courtesy problems.
a courteous or respectful or considerate act
a courteous manner ~Princeton.edu
The very first month- I NEVER received a package. I didn't say a word until people started posting their "Thank You's" for the second month's "exchange". (exchange~the act of giving something in return for something received).
I wrote to the gals who were "in charge" of it all. They were horrified, tried several times to contact my pal who simply "forgot" (even though she rec'd HER gift). The coordinator actually had to post several times on our DTC group to try and find her and get her to respond. I have since found out this woman is also with my agency. Great.
So- I will tell you how wonderful the two women who were trying to coordinate this exchange are. They sent me some packages even though I told them it was unnecessary. They sent something for every person in my family. I am so impressed by the generous spirit they had. They also found me another "pal" (who is awesome by the way).
This is not the end of my story. I was assigned to my pal who NEVER posts a thank you in ANY way. I would have no idea if she even receives these gift until I was 2, yes, 2 days late in getting the package out because I decided to combine two months. I received an e-mail from the coordinators. They attached her e-mail. It said:
"Where is my gift?"
That's it. Nothing else. No "thank you for the previous gifts I threw them away because you have terrible taste and I hate you" or anything. Just- "where the he** is my gift?"
I am now not looking forward to buying things for this woman and her entitlement issues. Good G*d! How hard is it to type Thank You?.
Look- thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you.
Not that hard chick!
Just so you people know- I got her some pretty kick ass stuff- way over the spending limit. Know what she's getting from now on? You got it! Dollar store baby! (even though I don't shop there b/c the poor people making the shit there are virtual SLAVES!)
Yes- I am bitter! Yes- I am vindictive! No- I really don't care if I meet the rag in China. If this thing goes on much longer I won't be able to finish this adoption anyway. Hah! Sorry, I can't keep buying you presents that you don't even care about for the next 23 months b/c I don't have any money left to go to China!!!!!!
3 comments:
Holy shit, that sucks. Lazy, entitled INGRATES!!! I am so relieved I opted out of my group's exchanges... Quit the swap. Buy cool stuff. And keep it!
I can understand... we have a matches in 2 separate secret pal swaps. One great on both the giving and receiving, the other set of matches, I only enjoy the giving.
The receiving... she sent to the wrong address (as in our old house we moved out MD 4 months ago). sent it UPS insteads of USPS as requested since we had no home and could only use the PO BOX, wound up dropped TWO times at the construction site... It's just not enjoyable and I want it to be. I want to enjoy it.
I still post a thank you on the group blog, still on my blog and try to be gracious, but it's hard.
but sometimes, it's just better to let go, move on and realize some people just won't understand.
I understand you. I'm sorry your experience was even worse than mine.
Love the sour grapes picture, BTW...very funny.
I can hardly believe the rudeness. I very, very, VERY much dislike RUDE-ness. It is not that difficult to show some appreciation - a simple thank you even if it is for a dreaded fruitcake is sooo easy.
I feel you on this one & I would seriously consider quitting the swap. If it isn't fun - why bother?
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