I do believe my mother is trying to drive me crazy. I really do. You would think that I am an adult who can totally handle Mom's "tendencies". No she's not a substance abuser. She's a mind bender.
One example:
She runs into the house today as I am putting the groceries away. She couldn't make it all the way home and had to pee. Ok, that's fine, I can understand that. Been there myself.
I had just rec'd a little note from EB's sister in the mail and had it out on the counter. She saw it and said..." Now, Honey.... do you think this is such a good idea... taking EB out there this Spring? I'm not sure this is such a good idea."
After telling her I think it is important and that I would love to help my child bond with his sibling and let his sister know he is happy and well and prove it in the flesh.
One example:
She runs into the house today as I am putting the groceries away. She couldn't make it all the way home and had to pee. Ok, that's fine, I can understand that. Been there myself.
I had just rec'd a little note from EB's sister in the mail and had it out on the counter. She saw it and said..." Now, Honey.... do you think this is such a good idea... taking EB out there this Spring? I'm not sure this is such a good idea."
After telling her I think it is important and that I would love to help my child bond with his sibling and let his sister know he is happy and well and prove it in the flesh.
I had asked her yesterday if she wanted to go. I think she told me no because my father is becoming more "feeble" as she puts it.
I then asked her if she wants me to stay here BECAUSE Daddy is getting weaker and wants me to stay with her. No, that wasn't the reason either.
"I just don't think you need to go anywhere, I mean when was the last time I took a vacation?"
Ummm.... excuse me, I didn't know that I was to change the way I live to conform with HER way of living. I must have skipped this chapter in the Mother daughter Handbook. What does HER not taking a vacation in the last year (she said she hasn't gone anywhere for 4 years. I guess the cruise to Alaska, the family reunions in Wisconsin and Montana and other trips don't count) have to do with me?
"I just don't think you need to go anywhere, I mean when was the last time I took a vacation?"
Ummm.... excuse me, I didn't know that I was to change the way I live to conform with HER way of living. I must have skipped this chapter in the Mother daughter Handbook. What does HER not taking a vacation in the last year (she said she hasn't gone anywhere for 4 years. I guess the cruise to Alaska, the family reunions in Wisconsin and Montana and other trips don't count) have to do with me?
She then went on telling me how SHE never took a vacation when the kids were small.... Ummm.. I seem to remember SEVERAL trips to Mexico and Africa and Germany and..... that I was sent to a sister's house or some such thing..... why should I feel guilty over this!!!!
One of the drawbacks of living close to your parents. They still want to tell you what to do and how to live your life and make you feel guilty for not doing so........
I know, MY problem...............
One of the drawbacks of living close to your parents. They still want to tell you what to do and how to live your life and make you feel guilty for not doing so........
I know, MY problem...............
13 comments:
I take it mom doesn't read your blog. I have several family members that know nothing of my blog (In-laws)
sit back, have a nice glass of wine.....(or whine)
No way... Mom doesn't read the blog. Getting the bottle down off the top of the fridge now... listening to some DooWop. Always makes me feel better it does. Love the XM I do.
Hmmm, we may have the same mom....:) Except mine DOES read my blog.
Glad the wine and music are helping!
I can relate. I love my parents dearly but lived with them for a couple of weeks during my house overhaul last fall. OMG I thought I would flip. 'What time will you be home for dinner? Your father and I will be waiting on you.' Please, release me!
I do love 'em...just not meant to live with 'em.
Oh yes, I love it when she still tries to tell me what to do. She even asked me if I had brushed my teeth once. I guess you could call that cute???
On a different note, would you mind emailing me at newgirl588@gmail.com? I just sent an email to everyone who said they wanted to continue following my blog, and I didn't have your email address.
Lucky you that mom doesn't read your blog. I'm thinking of starting a whole seperate blog just to complain about mine! hehe....
I live 1700 miles away from mine and I don't think it's any easier.
Didn't know you were planning on taking EB to see his sister. I think that is WONDERFUL!! Sounds like maybe your Mom doesn't and this is her round about way of telling you. That's something my Mom would do anyway. Anytime I even so much as mention the fact that Ivan has biological family members she blows it off like it's not important and they don't exist. HELLO... this is part of his life. If it were up to her Ivan would never know he was adopted and we'd have this whole elaborate lie all worked out for him. Guess she's still stuck back in "her day".
Bottom line... you shouldn't feel guilty for taking a "vacation". Everyone needs time away and it's not like you are going out there by yourself... EB is going with you. Do what you know is right and don't let her get you so crazy. Not worth it.
Now... go drink that wine.
Mmmm. Wine. I lucked out on the parental side of things, but I'll send you wishes for peace anyhow. Deep breaths.
Ah yes!
Do you think WE will do this to our children when they are older????
Gosh, I hope not. But, I do see pieces of my mom in me (some good pieces, others not so much.)
Anyway!
Enjoy your DooWop!
Oh how I can relate....
Vent away, mom issues are the most trying!
:)
I have to carefully edit because hubby's fam reads the blog and my mom once and again.
But let me comment that picture is SCARY!!
Just make mental notes to remind yourself how NOT to act when your children are older b/c it is usually inevitable.
When discussing our upbringing for foster care licensing, I stated my mother taught me everything not to do. If I am the opposite of her, I should be fine (0:
It's funny how mom's do this, mine was no exception. But funnier still that I know in fact now that one day you will wish she was there to drive you absolutely insane. I was just saying that to my sister this weekend, "Can you believe we haven't seen her in over a year? I mean, even though she drove us crazy, I'd give anything". Doesn't change anything in the moment though... there were times I thought I'd pull my hair out one strand at a time in her presence... but now I wouldn't mind being bald if it meant being with her again. : o )
OMG!I am loving this post.
At the moment-mine is not speaking to me. This has been going on for a month. She lives 10 miles away. She does read my blog (though stopped to show me how disinterested she is for the time being) I want to start a new blog as well to vent away.
I agree, wine fixes everything
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